After reading Betsy Shaw's Blog on BabyCenter about the six stages of sex after kids, I've come to the realization that I NEED NOOKIE. I need it NOW.
I guess if you use the scale Betsy has up, we're in stage 3-4, the so tired stage where we just can't. It's not that I don't WANT to, but there are some days that Monkey Child is just bouncing off the walls with energy that once he's down for the count so am I. And then on the days I want to, Baldman is having a bad pain day or is just too tired from the changes going on at work (they're moving his offices) that he's no good to me.
This stage is no good for the baby making plans. I swear, sometimes I wonder if we should just schedule sex, like a date night (whatever that is...). But damn it, I miss sex. We used to be all over each other, and even right after Monkeychild was born we couldn't keep our hands to ourselves (let's just say we didn't wait the six weeks...) Then I went on the Pill and my drive disappeared. But now....now that I'm off the Pill my drive is back, so now we need to get the DH back up to par. I'm hoping this sleep study he's got to do tonight down in Albany will help him somehow. Maybe if he gets more restful sleep at night he could be more like how we were before kiddo came along!!
Thanks for the link. You know, people overlook the possibility of lack of sex having anything to do with the man. I can attest to the fact that men's libido does flag. I can also attest to the fact that it can be revived. Perhaps a move to France is in order. :)
ReplyDeleteLOL England, maybe, but not France. Neither one of us speaks the language and since he won't try, I'd end up having to and I've been trying to for five years (we live on the border near Quebec, which while it's not the same type of French it's still close).
ReplyDeleteFingers crossed the sleep study helps! Even if it means a CPAP machine for him, ANYTHING will be better than the snoring and the night terrors that keep ME up when they strike him!